[Paven Kaur]

PS are you wondering if the long time to fall asleep at bedtime is from a little overtiredness?

[Paven Kaur]

Hi Emma,

Since moving bedtime to 715pm, the afternoon crankiness has gone as have the overnight wakes. Those were happening when I did 730pm bedtime then he caught up on sleep with a couple of 7pm bedtimes. Today he woke up at 655am and I put him down for his nap at 1150. He wasn’t asleep until 1210-1215. He has been cranky yesterday morning and this morning but I think it is because he is so hungry as when he eats loads then he is fine. I have also been putting him down for the nap a bit earlier eg 1145-1150 and found that helped whereas before I was doing 1155 so he wasn’t getting 2 hours of actual sleep so I have been trying to get 2 hours of actual sleep.

If I did an 1130 nap time and he woke up early from the nap, what time would I do bedtime as sometimes he only sleeps 1.5 hours?

Best wishes, Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Thanks Emma. That makes sense. I have just emailed the last week of information and would appreciate your advice as still having issues although things are definitely better. He has always been quite sensitive to sleep changes. Thanks again.

Best wishes, Pav

[Paven Kaur]

I went in and soothed him then put him back down after 10 minutes of holding and he has stayed asleep for over an hour and a half.

[Paven Kaur]

Hi Emma,

Can I check what to do if Rohan wakes early in the morning eg today he was woken up at 615am. I picked him up at 630am. I offered him his nap at 1145, he was asleep very quickly. He had been yawning multiple times in the morning. He has woken up crying after 36 minutes. Yesterday he had a 1.5 hour nap so did a 7pm bedtime and he fell asleep at 8pm so just slept over 10 hours overnight. Should I offer an earlier nap on these days and let him nap longer?

Best wishes

Pav

[Paven Kaur]

1. Please ignore my question regarding 730 bedtime…it is clearly too late for him. He was overtired all of yesterday and woke crying from his nap after 1.5 hours and crying in the night at 1130pm on off until falling asleep about an hour later despite a 7pm bedtime. I’ll stick to an earlier bedtime. Thank you, Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Sorry I also meant to ask on days he wakes up earlier in the morning, should I put him down for his nap slightly earlier?

Best wishes

Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Thanks Emma. On the 7th he did end up waking up naturally at 655am. Then a 2 hour nap (I woke him up) then I put him down for bed at 730pm, he was asleep 18 minutes later and I had to wake him at 7am but he seemed a little off all morning.

It sounds like you are thinking 730pm bedtime is slightly too late?

Thanks again,

Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Hi Emma,

Hope you are well. Just a little update. On the 6th, Ro took a 2 hour nap so I made bedtime 730pm and he fell asleep 815pm then woke up at 635am. He seemed tired before 12 as yawning about 20 minutes before then but we were out. I put him in the cot late at 12 and he slept 1.5 hours then by 630pm was a mess. He having tantrums over nothing and hysterical, wouldn’t stop crying and wouldn’t eat so I put him to bed around 710 and he was asleep about 20 minutes. He cried 5 minutes around 1130pm. He is still asleep now and it is 650am.

He is overtired in my opinion. Any advice would be great. His receptive language has much improved over recent weeks with him following instructions more and able to point at things eg the fridge or where q is on the keyboard. Occasionally he sounds like he is saying words eg bus, car but very occasionally.

Best wishes,

Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Thanks Emma. I have just emailed you the last week.

Best wishes, Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Thanks Emma. Can I check what to do if he has a nap shorter than an hour. Yesterday his actual sleep time for his nap was 40 minutes then he woke crying. Once I picked him up he was happy and energetic. I put him down at 7pm so it was a massive wake window but he was happy. He was asleep 15 minutes later and slept through til 630am. Is this the right thing to do – to stick with a 7-730pm bedtime range no matter wake time (even with such a short nap) unless clearly tired? The night before this happened was the first time I tried 730pm bedtime. I am not sure he needs a later bedtime now he is waking earlier so I will stick with 715 for the moment. His mood is MUCH better now. He is also started to say words so may be related to development. Best wishes, Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Thanks Emma. I will try that.

We moved to a new place few weeks ago and the lights are much brighter. It had crossed my mind that it is very bright until he is in his cot (he is still sleeping in his travel cot with the slumberpod so I know he is in complete darkness in the night). Yesterday he napped 1.5 hours but I stuck with 715pm, which was a 5 hr 45 minute wake window. He was asleep at 745 and slept through the night. He woke naturally for the first time at 650am this morning! I will start putting him down at 730pm and turning some lights off towards the last hour.

Thank you again. Things are better than before your help. I will update you in a few days.

Best wishes,

Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Hi Emma,

Thank you and I will do that. He has taken a 2 hour nap every day since starting the schedule except the 2nd day. I wake him up at 2. Last 2 days I have put him down at 715pm. 2 days ago he was asleep at 8 (he cried few minutes at the end) and yesterday 745ish.(He woke crying for a few minutes at 10pm then went back to sleep for the night). I have had to wake him up at 7am, he isn’t waking naturally. He is quite grumpy in the day. This morning he is grumpy and clingy from waking up. Yesterday afternoon he was quite grumpy except the first hour.

Questions:

1. Is this grumpiness expected (he is getting frustrated easily, have little tantrums, clingy, fussy – he isn’t normally like this and I assume it is as he is tired from the bigger wake windows) and will get better with time as he adjusts? It is manageable at the moment by going outside or changing activity. It comes and goes, isn’t constant.

2. If he is grumpy in the afternoon, should I put him down earlier eg 7pm or try to hold out for 715 if able?

Best wishes

Pav

[Paven Kaur]

He seems a touch cranky this morning and fell asleep for his nap quickly so he must be tired suggesting to me I should pull back to your advised time of 715pm and wait a week. I have made a mental decision to change nothing for one week as I am likely prolonging the process. Best wishes, Pav

[Paven Kaur]

Thanks Emma. On the day I put Ro down at 645pm and he didn’t sleep til 750, he was awake an hour in the night also just lying there. Next morning I woke him up at 7, he took him nap 12-2 then I woke him up and I put him down at 730 as he didn’t seem tired and he was also falling asleep 745-750pm the two days before. He was asleep 30 minutes later and didn’t wake in the night. I woke him up at 7am then did the same yesterday and he fell asleep 45 minutes later at 815pm. I woke him up at 7 this morning. Is putting him down at 730pm ok or should I go back to 715pm – happy to do whichever you feel best. His bed time tantrums have reduced too…I think he was saying I’m not tired yet!

Best wishes, Pav