[Cecilia Gemmani]

I just want to explain myself better. At the moment i am following the “ Sleep pyramid” of interaction. But he is now able to stand and reach the upper edge of the crib. So, when i go there to pat, he stands or sit up and tries to grab my shirt, crying harder. At this point i pick him up to rock him, but as he cries even more, it ends up by brestfeeding. This is pritty much the dynamic.each time.

[Cecilia Gemmani]

Hi Emma,

Yes, i found a way to put him in the crib more gently while sleeping, so he just turn over and go on sleeping.

Yes, the first nap is still the longest.

I am going to try what you suggest.

I am not really sure about patting because usually it seems to keep him awake. But we will see.

Thanks for the tips!

[Cecilia Gemmani]

Hello Emma,

I am sorry to insist on writing. But i think I am probably doing something wrong.

These days, after the nap/bed routine, walking out of the room, and then the escalation of the Settleling pyramid, after i pick him up and calm him down by rocking/patting or feeding, i am no more able to put him back in the crib. This because he calm into my arms only when he is asleep, but he wakes up and cry every time i try to put him in the crib. Both during day and night it ends up after one hour and a half of picking up and putting down, with me crying exausted to rock him (as some time feeding is not calming enought) and him sleeping into my arms untill he is in deep sleep. This way his naps last a half hour…

I really don’t know what has changed. Untill few days ago i used to manage to put him in the crib after he justed closed his eyes.

Any suggestion?

Cecilia

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[Cecilia Gemmani]

Absolutely!

Thanks again!

Cecilia

[Cecilia Gemmani]

Hi Emma,

Thank you for replying so fast!

It does sound ok. I am going to make all these adjustments for sure.

The only thing i’m concerned about is the nap schedule, just because the length of his naps is still a little unpredictible. But I will try to stik to it and see what happens.

I have just another question , if I may ask. Do you think that visiting-relatives/holiday (whitch means changeing bedroom) in next months might bring him to a regression?

Again thank you so much for the help!

What you and your team do is fantastic, easy to understand, effective, achevable, and help us know our little tresures better.

I will let you know when our nigh-time sleeps have significant improovement.

Cecilia

[Cecilia Gemmani]

I just wanted to share that yesterday my little boy fell asleep on his own for the first time! 🥰 (For the second nap)

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[Cecilia Gemmani]

Hi Emma,

thank you for your reply, don’t be sorry for your questions at all. I probably over-detailed the answers, so let me know if I need to clarify better.

I waited to reply because my little boy is changing the pattern and I wanted to see what was happening. (Actually i don’t think it’s related to teething any more).

Q1) He sleeps in his own room since the beginning (I now it is not recommended, but i prefer to be fully honest here). I have a video monitor though.

We had a very consistent night routine with a bath. Between 8 weeks of age and 12 weeks he used to sleep 12 hours with no interruptions in the night. Then came the dermatitis and we had no more nights like those since then (even after dermatitis was gone).

I don’t know if it means something, but I have to admit that we travelled a lot since he was born (grandparents, aunts and uncles, holidays and so on). Almost every two weeks he changed bedroom (always the one next to mine). We are at home since August 24th (from the lets-call-them-koala-days i mantioned before).

Q2) About wake-up time. He naturally wakes at 7/7.30 consistency.

The other day he woke at 8. I let him because usually his last nap ends too early, so he has to wait 3 hours before bedtime (As i mentioned, his usual wake window is about 2 hours). I thought it would have helped but nothing changed. Naps have been shorter so he waited 3 hours anyway.( I have to wait 8 pm to put him to bed because the pediatritian suggested to make him dinner with us for BLW. This has now been part of the routine for two months. Unfortunately because of family scedule it’s impossibile for us to dinner earlier).

Q3) His sleeping scedule is changing these days. Untill last week he used to wake up at 7 am; first nap at around 8.30/9 am (1,5 hour); second nap at 11.30/12 (half hour); third nap at around 3.30/4 pm (45 min or more); last nap at 5.30/6 pm ( half hour or more). Bedtime at 8/8.15 pm. This was pretty much the pattern.

Q3.1) This week he lengthened the morning nap. So wakes up at 7, first nap at 9/9.30 (two hours, more or less), second nap at around 1/2 pm (half hour or more), last nap at around 5 pm (half hour or less). Bedtime at 8/8.30 pm.

At night time he wakes up almost every hour. If he sleeps for 3 hours or more, it is usually after 00.00/1 am to 5/6 am.

Q4)& Q5) Nap routine was:

1- close corridor door,

2- close bedroom door,

3- turn air conditioning on,

4- close the window-shutter while shusshing,

5- sing a lullaby five times or more rocking untill he almost fell asleep.

5.1- If crying to much, then breastfeed him to bed (lately always. He is too havy for me to rock a lot).

6- He rolls upside down and close the eyes again.

Q4.1) & Q5.1) In the last three days i am applying the “sleep pyramid” at step 5.

So it now is:

Steps 1, 2, 3, 4 the same,

5- Sing the lullaby twice while rocking him a little bit,

6- shusshing, putting him gently in the crib and walk out of the room.

He rolls, sits up and starts to watch around.

7- He starts crying again so i begin with “watch and listen” outside of the room and go on with the pyramid, untill i pick him up, rock, and at last brestfeed him to bed. This is what happens generally.

Q4.2) & Q5.2) Bedtime routine is almost the same and i made the same changes. The additional parts are after step 1:

1.1- while i sing a familiar calming song we do a quick shower, change the nappy, spread almod oil and skin cream (no more bath since July because of dermatitis), put on the pajamas (lately all of these operations looks more like a wrestling fight now that he can sit and stand😅).

Steps 2., 3., 4., are the same. Then

4.1- switch on a small light and sing the night-time lullaby (a longer one).

From step 5 it is just the same as for naps.

As i mentioned, breastfeeding is more like a dummy now. We have no more rules about feeding. I offer a feed every time he wakes up but since he ate just before sleeping, he is no more hungry.

Q6) His bed room is as cool as possibile. I check his body every time he wakes (around 24 C since it is still 26/28 C outside). It’s dark as I cannot read a book during the day and completely dark in the night. I keep it dark even when he wakes in the night (always check to the camera if he is actually awake).

It is very quiet in the night and quiet enough during the day. If a sudden sound wakes him up i know exactly what it is. It happens rarely, but especially in the weekends. So that I just bought a white noise machine.

I would like to specify that his weight is medically fine, even a little over, so it should be fine to cut some extra “sleep-feed”.

It might be confusing as an answer (I am a bit confused myself at the moment), but i hope it helps.

Cecilia

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