Hi Lizzie,

Wow, 3.5 months – she’s growing up so fast!

From what you’ve described, it does sound like the dummy might be causing those more frequent night wakings. So I do think it might be time to let it go, and it’s absolutely fine to start now rather than waiting until four months. That said, if you’d prefer to wait, that’s okay too. Just…

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Hi Emma,

I think the time might have come to wean my baby from the dummy! She’s 3.5 months now and goes to sleep generally pretty well with it in – I can put her in the cot awake with dummy and often will settle by herself, or need me to put the dummy back in a few times. But she’s now waking every hour (or more) overnight from about 10:30pm…

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No worries at all.

Thanks Emma. I was following this advice as it seemed more logical. And, I haven’t been too strict about the distance; I just put the speaker on the other side of the room.

Thanks for your confirmation

Hi Kateryna,

Before I give you specific advice on transitioning away from rocking, I’d love to get a clearer picture of where things are at. So when you have time can you please answer the questions below?

His routine

• Does he have a consistent wake-up time each morning (within about a 30-minute window)? If so, what time does he usually…

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Hi Benjamin,

You’re right, the advice out there can be confusing!

The second piece of advice is the one that aligns with current safety guidance. The goal is to keep the sound level at your baby’s ears within a safe range, not just to limit what the machine is set to. So it’s the volume where your baby is sleeping that matters most.

The…

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My 3-month-old will only fall asleep during the day with rocking (often bouncing on an exercise ball). If I don’t rock him, he cries for a long time, becomes overtired, and it’s even harder for him to settle.

He doesn’t show clear sleep cues, so I usually try to put him down about 1.5 hours after waking, but it can still take 10–45 minutes of…

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I have seen conflicting advice out there re the 55db limit on using these.

One set of advice says that the machine should be set to no more than 55db AND the baby should be 2m away.

OR

Another set pf advice says that the level should be no more than 55db where the baby is (at least 2m away from the machine) and that you can check this with an app…

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Hi Patrick,

Thanks for sharing all of that!

So when little ones get sick, it can definitely set their sleep back a little and the reason for that is pretty straightforward. When they’re unwell, uncomfortable, or in pain, we naturally do more to help soothe them. And once they get used to that extra input to help them fall asleep, they start…

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Hi Emma, thanks for your quick and thourough reply. Your descriptions make perfect sense, during the day she is often waking up during her naps after 30 minutes and we have to rock her back to sleep otherwise her nap is finished after 30 minutes instead of 90. Maybe this is another useful information for you: When our daughter was around 6…

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Hi Jessica,

It sounds like your baby’s sleep space is great in terms of being conducive to sleep, and it’s fantastic that you’ve been able to adopt a consistent wake-up time and bedtime.

Before I can give you some strategies to lengthen your little one’s naps, I have a few questions. When you have some time, can you please answer the…

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Hi Emma,

Just wondering how I can best support my baby. There’s a few things going on with sleep currently.

Daytime: naps are around 30-45 minutes at the moment. They were more like an hour and have recently got shorter. She then can stay awake for 1.5 – 2 hours before getting grizzly. But seems a bit more quick to moan then when she was sleeping…

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Hi Patrick!

It sounds like your little one has learned to fall asleep using movement, and is then relying on that same movement to link her sleep cycles.

Here’s what’s happening:

During the day, when she stirs between sleep cycles (around that 30-minute mark), you’re naturally rocking, shushing, or moving to help her resettle which links her into…

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Hi Tatsiana,

Given that your little one has recently started the medication and the side effect is gassiness and the wakings at night have only recently started, they could be due to the medication.

But the other thing it could be is that your little one is going through the 4-month sleep regression. It’s not really a regression; it’s more like…

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Dear Emma!

Even though our daughter is already 8 months old, we’ve still decided to buy your course because her uninterrupted sleep Windows during the night are still really short (1.5-2 hours maximum) which is taking a huge toll on our family life.

I don’t know where we took the wrong path because the first 3 months were rather easy going…

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Emma, one detail. We started esomeprazole little mote than 1 week ago for the acid reflux. Its side effect is gasiness.

Hi Emma,

My daughter is 3moand 13 days now. Something has changed and i cannot figure it out. First I’ll say that we’ve been working on falling for a night sleep at earlier time instead of 10pm, so far unsuccessful. I’ve been waking her up earlier now and shifting it to earlier slowly by 15min every 3 days. I am much more strict with her day…

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No worries at all. I hope it helps a little

Thank you! Did not get to the pyramid yet 🙂

Hi Tatsiana,

You’re right that I generally recommend swaddling babies while they’re awake, as part of the settling routine. The reasoning is that even though they may protest at first, they usually calm down and being already swaddled makes the transfer from your arms into the cot easier. From there, you can use the Settling Pyramid to help…

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No worries at all, Erin. Just let me know how it goes, and we can make things if needed.

Emma

Hi, from what I see on the videos it looks like swaddling should happen when baby is still awake. My bay is 3mo old. It seems almost impossible for me to do because I know my baby will fight the swaddle if she’s awake. What I usually do is holding her until she’s in a deep sleep then swaddle and move to her bed. Please advise on that.

Yes that all sounds good and we will give it a try! I appreciate the plan.

Hey Erin,

Thanks so much for getting back to me with all of that detail!

It sounds like you’ve built a really solid foundation with a consistent wake-up time, a predictable nap routine, and he’s now able to settle to sleep in your arms without any movement. That’s great progress!

I understand that moving through the full settling pyramid…

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Thank you for the quick reply! We will try what you have suggested for the short naps at home and otherwise just go with the short nap if he seems happy enough to be awake.

To answer your follow up questions:

Morning wake: typically between 5:45-6:15. If he is not up by then, we will wake him up so he has time to eat and we have time to get…

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Hi Erin,

It’s great to hear that you’ve been able to get your little one napping in his crib, and that you’ve picked up some helpful tips from the forum!

About the short naps

Short naps are really common at this age, anywhere around 30 minutes or less. This happens because, sometime between 3 to 5 months, your baby’s sleep matures and they…

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Hi Yanet,

If that’s the case, then you might need to take it a little bit slower, the strategies should still work though, so let me know how you go in a week or two.
Emma

Thank you for the opportunity to seek advice outside of the video series! I have been searching the forum and have found some great advice that has helped our baby to sleep in his crib for naps without needing a contact nap, but we are having some issues now with short (approximately 30 minute) naps in his crib, plus significant…

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Yeah so initially I thought going to sleep meant fully asleep but she would already have her eyes closed by the time she lets us stop rocking, so she actually has never fallen asleep without motion at all, except nursed to sleep which works sometimes but often she wakes up within 5–10 minutes of seemingly being asleep when nursed to sleep, she…

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Hi Yanet,

Sorry, I’m just a little confused. I thought you mentioned she was falling asleep without motion most of the time. Does that mean you’re now using motion every time to get her to sleep?

If so, still pop on her sleeping bag and do the walking around part while you’re outside of the bedroom, and then when she is calm going into the…

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Hi Lizzie,

It’s great that she’s able to settle herself to sleep using the dummy!

Since she’s only 10 weeks old and the dummy isn’t disrupting her sleep, meaning she’s not waking every time it falls out, I wouldn’t worry about removing it right now.

The time to think about fading the dummy out is if it starts causing problems, like:

• She can’t…

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Thank you Emma, I will start to incorporate all of your suggestions my only question is is there a good plan for removing motion from the way she sleeps? If she doesn’t have motion she cries a lot and we end up having to bounce at least a little bit to get her to calm.

Hi Emma,

Thanks for the advice. Putting the dummy in earlier and leaving it in seems to be the trick at the moment – with the dummy, I can put her down awake and walk out of the room and she doesn’t need any more help to go to sleep. I just hope I’m not shooting myself in the foot as she is building such a strong association between the dummy…

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Hi Yanet,

Thanks so much for answering all of my questions. Based on everything you’ve shared, I’ve put together a plan for you below.

Swaddle and Sucking Her Hands

You mentioned she falls asleep slower with one arm out but sleeps deeper when she does because she is sucking her hand. This tells me she’s starting to use her hands to…

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1. You mentioned you’re swaddling her. In the swaddle are her arms up by her head or down by her side? Down by her side she settles faster, I recently have tried one arm by her face so you can suck on her hand but I think it distracts her from falling asleep she falls asleep slower I think but she does fall asleep deeper whenever she finally does…

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Hi Cherry,

First of all, you’re doing an amazing job, please don’t feel guilty!

At this age, babies don’t really follow a set schedule. That usually doesn’t happen until around six months. Right now, in the newborn phase, it’s much better for everyone if you just follow her lead, sleeping when she’s tired and feeding when she’s hungry.

If you…

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Hi Yanet,

I just have a few more questions:

1. You mentioned you’re swaddling her. In the swaddle are her arms up by her head or down by her side?
2. I noticed popping her in the swaddle is the second last step,how would she go if you put her in the swaddle at the start of the routine.
3. When you rock her to sleep in your arms (so immediately after…

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Thank you very much for your reply Emma!

I do have a few follow up questions on the 4th point, longer nap and not able to be put down:

– Her wake window is very long in my opinion. Typically during the day, she would feed for at least an hour, we do first breastfeeding, and then we top up with some formula. Including the burping sessions…

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• How old is your little one? From my calculations she might be 13 weeks? Yes she is. Her due date was 11/1/25 but she was born on 11/13/25
• Was she born at full term or premature? If she was born premature how many weeks premature? Full term. Her due date was 11/1/25 but she was born on 11/13/25
• Doe she have formula or breastmilk?…

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Hey Olga,

At 8 weeks, it’s really common for babies to wake up, feed, and then fall asleep during the feed. When they wake again, they might want to eat straight away or have a little play and that’s completely normal.

What you’ll start to notice over the coming weeks is that your little one will begin staying awake after some feeds instead…

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Hi Pav,

Last week, I was thinking the crankiness and occasional split nights might have been because Roh wasn’t getting quite enough sleep, especially since he was still needing to be woken from his naps rather than waking up on his own.

But given that his afternoon crankiness has settled down and the overnight wakes have improved, it sounds…

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Hi Yanet,

It sounds like the past few days haven’t improved and she is waking move overnight.

Given that, I just have a few questions, which I would love for you to answer. I have listed them below:

• How old is your little one? From my calculations she might be 13 weeks?
• Was she born at full term or premature? If she was born premature how many…

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Unfortunately things have not gotten better. We have tried the settling pyramid even with modifications no success, she still cries to be picked up and will not sleep until we pick her up. Also, she has been waking more overnight. I’ll try offering a feed at the first wake up, but I was trying to avoid feeds at all since before she would not…

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