[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi!

Emma, thank you so much again. The new routine seems to work much better – my baby’s sleep has improved and she is falling asleep on her own again for naps and bedtime so easily like nothing ever happened. I am definitely going to try your tips on settling her back to sleep at night wakings. I just wish I would have asked for your help much earlier rather than trying to solve it all by myself. I wish you and your family the best of luck! Take care!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma!

June 5.

We had some appointments today so her naps did not follow your exact suggested schedule.

First nap 9:15-10:15 (fell asleep in the car).

Second nap at 12:20-13:54 (fell asleep in the car).

Bedtime at 7:30. Putting in the crib at 8:10. She was calmer: she sat up a few times in the crib and I laid her down, every time patted and shushed, and I was finally able to move out completely out of her sight while she was awake but calm and she fell asleep on her own at 8:30.

Night wakings:

23:30 nursing for 5 min

2:27 nursing for 12 min

2:57 patting and shushing

5:38 nursing for 15 min

June 6

Her only nap was at 11:25-2 (we had a doctor’s appointment, so I tried to do that first nap earlier in the car, but no matter how long we drove, I could not get her to sleep, so she had one nap).

Bedtime is at 7:30, and she is put in the crib at 8. She fell asleep at 8:12 (fell asleep on her own without me in her sight).

Night wakings:

10:35 nursing for 12 min

1:04 nursing for 7 min

3:28 nursing for 17 min

June 7

Nap: at 11:11-1:45 (fell asleep in my arms). Since she had a better night’s sleep with one nap (fewer wakings and no early morning waking) wanted to recheck it.

Bedtime at 7:15, putting in the crib at 7:44. At 7:47 she fell asleep. At 8 she woke up, I picked her up, but she fell asleep on her own at 8:16.

Wakings:

10:16 nursing for 12 min

11:51 nursing for 11 min

1:30 nursing 12

5:22 nursing 16 min

June 8

First nap at 10-11.

Second nap at 2:02-3:04 (she was a bit fussy after this nap).

Bedtime is at 7:30. At 8:05, I put her in the crib, picked her up a few times, and she fell asleep pretty much in my arms at 8:27.

Wakings:

9:31 nursing 12 min

23:50 nursing 16 min

4:24 nursing

June 9

First nap at 9:53-10:55.

Second nap at 2:16-3:06 (she woke up by herself, and was cranky).

Also, while I was away for one and a half an hour my husband said she was crankier than usual. Bedtime at 7:28. Fell asleep at 8:24 (by herself).

Wakings:

10:44 nursing 14 min

2:14 nursing 10 min

But woke up at 6 am cranky again although it is not typical for her to be so after night’s sleep (but later her mood was ok).

June 10

First nap: 9:07-10:27 (finally, she fell asleep independently when put in the crib; I did not even have to pick her up). Also, you can see I let her nap a bit longer. I noticed that she was cranky if woken up after an hour, so I thought I would let her nap a bit longer, and she woke up happy this time.

Second nap: at 2-2:55 (fell asleep easily on her own, woke up by herself but very cranky. Later she was just fine).

Bedtime at 7:15. Putting in the crib around 7:45. Fell asleep again by herself at 7:57.

Wakings

11:05 nursing 13 min

0:40 nursing 10

3:29 nursing 8min

My thoughts: I guess I really made a mistake in making her have one nap schedule — at least for now, it seems like two nap schedules fit her much better (fewer night wakings, easy getting her back to sleep and finally falling asleep on her own). Now I don’t even understand how I misread her cues before. It might have been overtiredness again that caused her wakings, and I assumed her schedule was naturally changing.

Also I have two more questions. First one: how would you plan her naps if we have physiotherapeutic appointments twice a week? They start at 10:30 am, sometimes at 10, and last for one hour. If let’s say we drive in the car and she has an earlier first nap with a shorter wake window should her other wake windows be a bit longer or what?

Second: do you think that crankiness after her naps means something or if it goes away in half an hour after she is awake they are nothing to be concerned about?

Also, let me know what do you think about what I tracked.

I cannot thank you enough – again, you are a real lifesaver! It truly amazes me how exactly you detect problems from far away 😅

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

I guess her sleep got worse but what confused me is that her wake windows got wider (when she was on two nap schedule she used to take her first nap at 10 am but around 9 and a half months she started to refuse it so I began to put her to sleep at 11 am. Also, she started to skip that second nap and would only sleep in the stroller. So it is going to be interesting to see if I am going to be able to put her at first nap this early 🙂 Anyway, I am going to try your suggested schedule and will see, how that will work.

• This reply was modified 9 months ago by  Giedrė Leleivienė.

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi, Emma!

Wow, it is going to be so unusual to get back to two nap schedule 🙈 but I am definitely going to try it and will let you know, how that will work. And I want to make sure I understood well: if I start bedtime at 7:30, I do put her to bed around 8, right?

Thanks for everything!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi, Emma!

I was just wondering if when you say that you move back down the pyramid before she falls asleep, does this mean you move out of her line of sight so that she falls asleep without you in view? > If it is possible yes, but if she stirs too much, she falls asleep while I am in view or patting her.

• What do you do for each of these wakes (so how you settle her back to sleep—e.g., patting, feeding, etc.)? At first, I try shushing and patting, and sometimes, it helps. If she is in the crib, I shush and rock her bed. But if that does not help, I breastfeed her to sleep—I find it less tiring than rocking her. Also, at night, when she stirs, she immediately starts to cry, and rocking does not seem to help, or it would take much more time.

• What time in the night do you move her into your bed? > It depends. If she wakes up after an hour of falling asleep, I usually let her sleep in the crib one more portion of the night—depending on how long it lasts—but I guess usually it happens between 11:30 and 0:30. I tried a few times to let her sleep longer, but she usually tends to wake up every hour if she is in the crib, so I cannot rest well. But, of course, it would be a dream to get her back to sleep in the crib all night.
• If she falls back to sleep easily or if she is staying awake for ages? > She used to fall asleep quickly while breastfeeding and many times she still does. But sometimes happens that she stirs an hour or even 15-20 minutes after being put back to sleep. Also, there were a few times when we could not get her back to sleep for an hour or two.

Also, I feel that the past two or one and a half months are consistent changes and if one problem goes away, comes another one. For example, recent week became a nightmare (and still is) again when putting her to sleep for nap and also for bedtime. She started sitting up when I put her in the crib, but she cannot do that freely in the crib and with her sleep sack, she clumsy moving around it, falls, etc, and of course starts to cry. So if I leave her, I have to get back and put her on her back but she immediately sits up again and it keeps happening over and over again. Last night it lasted for 40 minutes so I got her to sleep while jumping on the gymnastics ball. Btw, she does not even calm down anymore on my hands while rocking, she keeps arching and crying. So she went from being calm and falling asleep on her own to this long process with a lot of my help. How do I handle those sit-ups? One idea I have is to try not to put her in a sleep sack because she cannot move freely with it and to buy one with legs in the near future, but she is not that coordinated so maybe it won’t always solve that clumsiness problem.

And here is what I tracked:

May 23

Fell asleep at 9:12 pm. Waking up at 22:26, I nursed her for 11 minutes. 11:18 pm woke up again, I nursed her for 10 min but she kept refusing to get back to sleep no matter what we did and got back to sleep only 1:22 (eventually we put her to our bed and she fell asleep on her own). At 5:48 am she woke up, I nursed her for 11 minutes and she fell asleep.

May 24

Fell asleep 8:55. 0:35 she woke up, I nursed her and transferred her to our bed but she again stayed awake for an hour. I got tired, put her on our bed while she was crying and she fell asleep on her own around 1:30 am. I woke up at 5:02 I nursed her for 11 she fell asleep.

May 25

Fell asleep at 8:49 and woke up at 11:48 pm (nursed her for 11 minutes and transferred to our bed). Woke up at 1:29 (nursed for 10 minutes). Woke up at 3:27 (nursed for 10 min).

May 26

Fell asleep at 8:10. Woke up at 9:13, and nursed for 9 minutes. We woke up at 11:24 pm, nursed for 11 minutes, and transferred to our bed. Woke up at 1:13 am, and nursed for 12 minutes. Woke up at 2:06 am and nursed for 9 minutes.

May 27

9:06 pm fell asleep. 0:46 waked up, I nyrsed her for 24 min and then transferred to our bed. 1:15 am woke up, nursed for 11 min. 4:15 am woke up again, nursed for 15 min.

May 28

Fell asleep at 9:01 pm. Woke up at 0:28 and nursed her to sleep but I did not make a note for how long, I guess it was about 20 min. Also, I transferred her to bed. Woke up at 5:21, and nursed for 11 minutes.

May 30

Fell asleep 9:55 (she was wakened up at 2:30 pm from her nap that day, so she fell asleep much later at bedtime). At 0:58 am woke up, I nursed her for 10 min, transfered to bed. At 6:02 am woke up, nursed her for 15 min.

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma!

So, I applied your suggested schedule, and it worked pretty well. I only started putting her to nap at 11:30 a.m. instead of 11 a.m. because if I put her at that time, she tends to fall asleep but wakes up after a few minutes, and then it is hard to put her back to sleep, and 11:30 worked better.

I guess an earlier bedtime routine helped her settle better, and she started to fall asleep by herself again, or using the settling pyramid. Her waking after one hour also got a bit better—sometimes she would not wake up, and sometimes it was enough to shush and rock her bed. But sometimes, I still had to breastfeed her to sleep.

But her wakings at night remain – there were maybe two or three better nights, but mostly she wakes up four times. I somehow have a feeling that she is going through a sleep regression, only not as bad as the four-month sleep regression.

Here is what I tracked:

May 9. Bedtime 19:30. 8:10 put in the crib. Started crying and did not calm down, I picked her up, and she fell asleep in my arms at 8:27.

May 10. Bedtime is at 8 pm. At 8:28, put in the crib. She started to cry. Shushing in view. Patting. Going to the bottom of the pyramid. Fell asleep at 8:34.

May 11. Bedtime routine 7:50. Put in the crib 8:24. She was quite drowsy. Fell asleep at 8:26

May 12. Bedtime routine 7:40. Put in the crib 7:27. 8:31 fell asleep.

May 13. Bedtime routine: 8 pm. I put her in the crib at 8:40. She fell asleep at 8:47. 20:52 sirs. Shushing, patting. She Fell asleep at 8:59 (this was an irregular day: she had interrupted nap because we had a doctor’s appointment, and I woke her up later, at 2:15 pm, so I put her in the crib later).

May 14. The bedtime routine is 8 pm. Put in the crib at 8:40. She fell asleep at 8:41

May 15. Bedtime routine: 7:35 pm. Put in the crib at 8:05. Fell asleep at 8:09.

The May 16 bedtime routine is 8 pm. Put her in the crib at 8:40. Had to pick her up and go through the settling pyramid. Fell asleep at 8:55 in the crib.

May 17. The bedtime routine is 8 pm. Put in the crib at 8:35. Fell asleep at 8:51

May 18. The bedtime routine is 8 pm. Put in the crib at 8:40. She started to cry hysterically. Fell asleep at 9:10 while breastfeeding.

May 19. Bedtime routine 8:30. Put in the crib 8:42. Crying again, fell asleep in my arms 8:52.

May 20. 7:50 bedtime routine. 8:20 put her in the crib. 8:24 fell asleep (this time, when I put her in the crib, I immediately patted, and when I saw that she was settling, I moved to the bottom of the pyramid – I wanted to avoid the last day’s scenario when she started to cry). She fell asleep easily this time.

I wanted to write a few days earlier, but as you can see, we again had a harder time, and I just wanted to wait a few days and see if it happens consistently, but it seems those were a few more difficult days.

That’s it for this time – looking forward to hear from you.

Take care!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma!

That’s right, on days I wrote about within those 4-10 minutes, she fell asleep and did not wake up in 20-40 minutes. But again yesterday, she fought sleep and fell asleep only in my arms. So some days are still more difficult than others. By the way, my baby tends to wake up an hour after she is asleep. I read this is because it is hard for them to connect that first sleep cycle with the rest of the night. What do you think? Do you think it is possible to do something about it? Usually, I just wait, and when she starts to stir, I shush and rock her bed a little, and in the past, that worked well, but now she just wakes up fully, and I have to breastfeed her to sleep again.

But thank you very much for the suggested strategy – I am definitely going to try it and will let you know how things are going.

And until then, thanks so much again, and take care! You are a real lifesaver!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma!

Oh, ask anything you need – I’m so glad you are helping me!

Nap routine.

Time variation. I follow her tired sign cues. Usually it’s about 4-4,5 hours after she wakes up, but sometimes it extends to 5 hours. Also, if she wakes up earlier, like 6:30 a.m., this also influences her first nap timing. And one more thing: with time, I find it more difficult to see tired cues, I feel that at this point I might miss sometimes early tired cues.

It is always me who puts her to nap and bedtime.

Bedtime routine details

• Optional bath
• Diaper change
• Pajamas
• Walk into the bedroom
• Turn on lullaby (the lullaby is just to create a calm environment, when I actually put her to sleep, I turn white noise on and it plays all night)
• Read a book
• Then, before putting her down in the crib, I close the curtains
• Sing a lullaby while rocking her
• Put her down in the crib

I breastfeed her about one or half an hour before bedtime. If we bathe her, I breastfeed after bathing her and putting on pyjamas.

When you first place her in the crib:

• What does she do?

Earlier, she usually fell asleep on her own. But recently she either falls asleep, but then starts to stir and fully wakes up again, or starts crying.

• What do you do in response? When I put her to the crib, I do not leave room but hide (there is a curtain on her crib so she does not see me). If she stirs or starts to cry, I wait and give her a chance to settle herself. If crying increases, I start shushing, then shushing in view, and when she sees me, she usually calms down and after some time starts to settle. Then she falls asleep, but sometimes wakes up again and then cries until I pick her up. But sometimes she hardly settles even in my arms (but all these situations started to happen in the recent 2 weeks when she dropped her second nap). I avoid feeding her to sleep because I noticed that she does not sleep well and usually wakes up again after 20-30 minutes if she falls asleep while feeding.

Sleep Associations & Resistance

• You mentioned she sometimes falls asleep on her own with some help. Could you describe what that “help” looks like?

Very often, sushing in view is enough for her to settle, but sometimes I have to pick her up. When she calms down, I put her in the crib and pat her until she settles even more and move to the bottom of the pyramid. But occasionally she falls asleep while I am patting and shushing.

Fall asleep time. When she had two naps, her consistent sleep time was about 8:30-9 pm. But when she started transitioning to one nap, things became very chaotic, and for the last one and a half months, her bedtime has varied from 7 pm to 10 pm. 9:30 is the time she has had for the past week, but I feel that I cannot even determine the actual time of falling asleep because everything seems chaotic. By the way, this transition to one nap is longer and more difficult than previous ones.

Sleep timing of the past 4 days:

May 1. Nap: 11:06 – 1:36 p.m. She started to show tired signs early this day. At 7:55 p.m., I started a bedtime routine. At 8:10 p.m., I laid her in the crib. At 8:20 p.m., she fell asleep.

May 2. Nap: 11:18-12:44 pm. Her nap was shorter than usual, so when I was breastfeeding her, she fell asleep and let her nap for 10 minutes 4:50-5 pm. Bedtime routine: a few minutes before putting to crib. 9:12 put her in the crib. 9:16 falls asleep.

May 4. Nap 11:55 am-2:15 pm. Bedtime routine: 8:40 pm. Fell asleep at 9:08.

May 5. Nap 11:36-13:54. Bedtime routine 8:35. 8:46 I put her in the crib. 8:50 falls asleep.

When she resists bedtime, do you feel she’s actually tired but unable to fall asleep, or more wired and not yet ready for sleep? > Usually, it seems that she is tired because when I rock her while singing a lullaby, she becomes drowsy in a few minutes. And often when she is put to the crib, she starts to sleep, but then stirs and wakes up.

1 Nap vs 2 Nap Schedule

This is what I am not sure about. It seems that neither the 2 nor the 1 schedule fits her perfectly. When she was on two naps, but started transition, I could not let her have longer naps because of long wake window that pushed bedtime very late; so it seemed that she did not get enough day neather nightime sleep; also she started to wake up at night and did not go to sleep even after breastfeeding – she talked etc and would be awake about half an hour. Not to mention that late bedtime was exhaustion to me, days with her became so long. Also, she would fall asleep only in the stroller for second nap. If we went through a regular nap routine, she would nap for 10 minutes and wake up, or skip nap at all.

When all those things happened, I tried to drop the second nap again and did not notice that she would be fussy, not happy, etc. Only bedtime became harder, and she started stirring more at night, which suggested to me that she might be overtired. So I tried to put her to bed earlier, but she still fell asleep only 7 hours after nap, and that evening was a battle. But that seems such an unusual wake window for 11 months 11-month-old baby. I am confused.

Evening Environment & Sleep Space

Actually, when things became rough, I started to do bedtime routine earlier – half an hour or at least 10 before bed – before we would just go through same routine as at nap time. Do you think that bedtime routine is not done early enough?

• What time does it typically get dark outside? Right now about 9 pm, but days are going to keep getting longer until the end of June.
• The crib is in our room.
• She sleeps in the same sleep space for naps and bedtime, but only in the night I transfer her from the crib to the bed.

Sleep Aids & Earlier Bedtime Attempts

She does not use pacifier but suck her finger, often falls asleep while sucking her thumbs.

Lastly, you mentioned you tried an earlier bedtime. Could you let me know what time you tried, and what happened when you did? > I don’t remember exact time, but I guess it was about 8 pm. We went through a nap routine and after I put her to the crib she soon started crying. When crying increased, I started shushing in view, and soon she calmed down, started to babble in her crib. After 15 minutes about she snoozed, but then few minutes later started to stir and finally fully woke up. I shushed in view again and she fell asleep again, but then she stirred again and woke up. Shushing in view did not help anymore, and she fighted to sleep even in my arms – it was a battle and when she finally fell asleep (in my arms), it was about 9:20 pm.

I hope you’re doing well! Take care!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma!

Wow, it’s so nice you remember us! ❤️

My baby usually wakes up around 7 a.m. If she does not wake up, I wake her and let her sleep no longer than 7:30 a.m. (but it happens very rarely).

She starts her first and now only nap between 11 and 12 a.m. If she does not wake up herself, I cap her nap at 2 p.m. or after 2.5 hours of sleep.

Recently she falls asleep only around 9:30 pm.

Nap routine is very simple: I close curtains, put on a white noise machine, sing her lullaby while rocking, put her in the crib and she falls asleep on her own.

Same looks bedtime routine only before bedtime I turn on a lullaby, we read books, and some days it includes a bath. She used to fall asleep on her own or with little help but when she started to transition to one nap schedule bedtime became challenging and now she sometimes falls asleep in my arms or on her own but still with help and it is very hard for her to settle down: she falls asleep but then after few minutes wakes and the process starts over again.

She usually wakes 3-2 times a night (time varies), and one of the wakes usually happens early in the morning (between 4 and 6 am). First, I try shushing or path her and sometimes it works but if she does not fall asleep I feed her.

But again after the current transition sometimes she wakes up even more frequently.

She is starting off in the crib and then co-sleeping later in the night.

Take care!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma!

Great to know everything went well with your daughter!

I’m happy to share that my baby girl’s naps are great – she falls asleep on her own and recently she stopped catnapping and now very often I have to wake her up from her naps :). Bedtime also became much easier, although I usually have to use a settling pyramid.

I cannot thank you enough for your program and recent help – although my baby’s sleep created so many challenges for us your method made it so much easier and it would have been so much more difficult without it. Your assistance for me as a first-time new mom is just immeasurable!

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi, Emma!

I’m happy to say that it seems like things finally start getting better at bedtime and night. And the reason for that was probably what you suggested – her sleep needs have been shifted. Her wake windows expanded quite a bit, especially the last one. Her bedtime became much easier, a few days ago I was finally able to put her to sleep using a settling pyramid and now usually I go through a bedtime routine and she falls asleep. Only now I put her to the crib quite drowsy but I am about to expand those wake moments. Yet mostly she still wakes up once after an hour but it’s usually easy to get her back to sleep. Her stirs at night reduced a lot. Anyway, I tracked some information.

Nov 12 day: 4:47 PM ended last nap. Fell asleep at 7:53 PM.

Nov 11 day: it was a crazy day, I have one more question.

Nov 10 day: 5:37 ended last nap. Fell asleep at 8:31 PM.

Nov 9 day: 5:46 ended last nap. Fell asleep at 8:23 PM

Nov 8 day: 5:12 ended last nap. Fell asleep at 8.21 PM.

I hope that is enough information to give you some insights.

• First nap: Around 8:30/9 am
• Second nap: Around 12:30/1 pm
• Third nap: Around 4/4:30 pm, ending by 5/5:30 pm > not exactly. She usually wakes up around 6 AM so her first nap usually is about 8 AM and sometimes it lasts about an hour or more but very often it lasts about half an hour. So her second nap often is about 11-11:30 AM. Her last nap starts between 4 and 5 PM and I don’t let anymore be it longer than 45 minutes.

I have one more question: sometimes it happens that her first naps of the day are shorter and when she has her last third nap I have two options: to wake her and then try to have a fourth nap and extend her day or let her have long (around 1.5 hour) last nap. Then her bedtime starts earlier (around 7 PM. It’s earlier for us but normal for her age babies, right?). Should I let her have that last nap so long as long as it doesn’t exceed all day’s nap time amount and has a broad enough last wake window? Because I noticed that she is having a really hard time falling asleep for the fourth nap even if she is tired.

And last question: your program is for newborns until 6 months old. I applied it. What’s next? Does the settling pyramid will work in the future and should work because the baby is familiar with it or it changes somehow? It would be interesting to know how is it going for you and your little one 🙂

Sorry if this letter is a bit long and if my English is not perfect 🙂

• This reply was modified 1 year, 3 months ago by  Giedrė Leleivienė.

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi, Emma!

Thank you for answering.

For daytime naps, it sounds like she is sleeping in her crib after you go through a nap routine. You’re placing her in the crib, and sometimes she falls asleep on her own, but if she doesn’t, you use the settling pyramid to help her drift off. Just to clarify—she isn’t falling asleep in your arms or during feeding and then being transferred to the crib, correct? > Correct, I follow wake, feed, play, sleep schedule.

My baby girl now is almost 5 months and two weeks old. She used to have four naps but I noticed that she started to connect sleep cycles and for the past two weeks she’s having more and more three naps a day. There have been more very positive changes in the recent two weeks. As I mentioned her naps were already quite good but they improved even more: I rarely need to use a settling pyramid, now I just go through a nap routine, put her in the crib and she falls asleep in a few minutes. I’m so happy and so thankful for your program! Those are great results!

As you suggested I expanded a bit wake window before her bed and she stopped waking every 15-20 minutes before falling asleep for a longer time. But sometimes she still wakes after an hour when put to bed. I also moved breastfeeding to the beginning of the bedtime routine so now it looks like this: breastfeed, bath, white noise, sleeping sack, singing lullaby while rocking. However, I’m still not able to help her fall asleep on her own for bedtime: I put her down awake or drowsy but she starts to cry a lot. I still slowly go through all the settling pyramid steps and just do it at least once or twice hoping that just as it works for day naps it might work one day for bedtime – she might just need more time to adjust after regression… However, now she falls asleep in my arms for bedtime. Same for night stirs.

You know what is the weirdest part for me? The other day we were at my mother-in-law’s house and when nap time came, I went through the routine, put her awake and she fell asleep on he own even though there was a different environment and very bright. But for bedtime when there is pinch dark, cool and quiet – no.

She also wakes less frequently at night and it takes a bit less time to put her back to sleep but she still needs a lot of help: to be fed or rocked and when put down to the crib we pat or rock her (our crib has wheels) because if we don’t do that, even if she seems asleep she wakes after few moments. Also, she almost stopped waking up 5-5:30 AM and wakes up between 6 AM and 7 AM. So there are some positive changes here and I assume those are signs that regression is about to end but in general her bedtime and night wakings remain very challenging because she needs a lot of help to be settled.

Giedre

[Giedrė Leleivienė]

Hi Emma,

My baby wakes up around 5:30-6:30 AM. So she has her first nap about 2 hours from waking. But I could not tell exactly what time she has all of her naps, since most of the time her naps are 30-45 minutes long and still seems a bit chaotic. Only sometimes she is able to have one longer nap. But her last nap usually ends at 6 PM and if she is still sleeping, I wake her up.

She goes to bed at 8 PM, and around 7:30 PM we start her bedtime routine. It looks like that: we bathe her, turn on white noise (on TV with a dark screen no ads), put her in a sleeping sack and then I breastfeed her. When I see that she becomes sleepy I put her drowsy to bed and start patting. Recently I stopped waiting if she can fall asleep on her own for nighttime sleep because she always starts to fuss, then I have to rock her for a long time and if I put her calm but awake, she starts to cry again and I have to repeat the process, it is too exhausting. When she falls asleep I turn down white noise. The bedroom overnight is dark, quiet, and cool. And yes, she sleeps in the same room as me and my husband, I consider transferring her to her room when she’s about 1 year old, but also it would be nice to hear your opinion on that, when and how to do that. By the way, before regression she used to fall asleep about 8-8:30 PM and slept until waking for feeding but now she falls asleep at the same time but then wakes up every 15-20 minutes few times until she is able to fall asleep for few hours.

Usually she wakes up about 11 PM, 2 AM, and 4 AM for night feedings. Before regression, she woke up only once or twice for feedings and and if she would wake up more she used to settle herself to sleep or with my little help. Now it takes much more time to help her back to sleep, even with breastfeeding and rocking it takes about 40 minutes for one waking. So she wakes up at least 3 times for feedings and usually even more, especially at the begining of night and then in morning from 4 AM. If she wakes up at 5 AM we usually are not able to her to sleep again. She refused to take a pacifier so she sleeps without it.

My set-up time for morning wake-up is 6 AM. Rarely she wakes up around 6:30 AM, most of the time before 6 AM or even earlier.

For daytime naps sometimes she falls asleep on her own, and sometimes I pat her but I always try to move to the bottom of the pyramid as soon as she settles down.

• This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by  Giedrė Leleivienė.
• This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by  Giedrė Leleivienė.